Anger is OK… but…

Great article by Rekha Shrivastava, M.S., CH, CRC, CASAC at     This article has some good information.

I know that for men who grew up in¬†the Western social/cultural norm where¬†expressed anger is seen as “manly” or “strong” or “powerful”. the new social values may be difficult.¬† Strongly expressed anger or some might even call it “verbal violence” is¬†unacceptable in most social settings.¬†It appears only to be acceptable by a Staff Sargent in¬†basic training and that may not even be true¬†today.

Our world is so much smaller now and we as human beings are more than our family or even nationality of origin’s expressed norms.¬†So¬†anger expressed in an emotional way simply does no good even though it may be cathartic for the individual¬†speaking.¬† ¬†I have recently become aware that I sometimes have been perceived in that way and never really knew it.¬† So…. learning to express anger in an acceptable way is critical for me and¬†for others (males and females) in¬†our society.¬†

So for all the times I have lost my temper in a meeting or social setting or other public place I ask for forgiveness from friends, professional colleagues, clients, parishioners and any others who I may have hurt by this expressed anger.¬† My intention was never to harm anyone.¬† I know the way to Hell is paved with good intentions.¬†¬†So I guess as my Mother would say, ” Steve there is no excuse, if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it.¬† She was proper Bostonian and I miss her dearly.¬†

 Namaste  #PBTGA